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In all of your relationships the effort you put into them, and your attitude, have a direct affect on you and those around you. My heart is to encourage through sharing my joys and challenges – the good, the bad and the ugly. Words served up with a bit of sweet, a dash of spicy and a healthy serving of random reality.

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Teen Watch

Feb
9

Raising teenagers really is a wonderful thing and the relational bond made through the years serves as an anchor in times of tumult.

In so many ways we as parents are given the opportunity to help our teens understand and navigate the world around them. Now, more than ever, that navigation requires intentional steering and a hand always at the ready to toss out a life preserver of truth.

Teens really do want to be spoken into, even if they initially roll those eyes, they are longing to be part of a conversation that enlightens and advises.

I recently read an article that discussed a disturbing social phenomenon that “pretty” is no more, now it’s all about being “hot” – and sadly that observation is true.

From the time I was very young I have been adept at people watching – you learn a lot about others by simply observing. Find an opportunity to observe the kids that your teens (and pre-teens) hang out with. The next sporting event you attend don’t watch the players on the court or field, watch the players in the stands.

Join me at MomLife Today to learn why observation leads to great opportunities to steer your teens towards a better course.

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Interviewing A Model

Jan
11

I really enjoy interviewing people for MomLife Today because being able to share what others are doing to glorify God, that in process speaks into the lives of moms, makes me silly happy!

Confession time…knowing that I was interviewing an International model made me feel silly awkward…like my former awkward pre-teen self. No pressure there…sitting on camera opposite a woman who has been on magazine covers. Gee thanks.

I chose, yes chose, not to “go there” with the comparison trap…and approached the interview with a brave, and yes, happy heart! I even got silly happy because Rachel Lee Carter is a “true beauty” and is an amazing mom and has a passion to speak into the lives of teens (and their moms) about the importance of modesty!

If you would like to “meet” Rachel Lee Carter hop on over to MomLife Today and you can see my video interview and listen to her on FamilyLife Today!

 

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Shaunti Feldhahn on Modesty

Jun
23

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Padded Bikini’s for 8 year olds?

Mar
28

Usually Monday is “Music Monday” around here and I post some music for your listening enjoyment because I love my music…and it makes me happy to share the tunes I enjoy with you!

However, today I felt I must send you over to MomLife Today and ask you to read the post we ran on Friday afternoon. And then I’m hoping you’ll go one step further and place a link to that post on your own site, or facebook page and spread the word. You will be joining an army of others who are doing the same thing!

You see, Friday morning I was made aware of a certain despicable clothier who was selling the “Ashley Triangle Push Up Bikini Top” for girls age 8 to 14.

WHAT? Someone needs to be pulled by the ear and marched into the principals office … better yet, marched into the office a few Daddy’s I know who’d like to re-educate them on appropriate attire for their daughters.

Ggggggrrrrrr.

Anyway, back to the MomLife Today post. So, we quick contacted one of our contributors – the wonderful Dannah Gresh of Secret Keeper Girl who has had a ministry to tween/teen girls and their mothers around the area of modesty. We forwarded her the offending information and after she yelled and counted to ten (through the computer…and I so heard her) her fingers got to typing and she whipped up a very educated post that you need to read!

Please go over to MomLife Today and read our article titled Is A Push Up Bikini Top Really Worth Fighting For? (Yes…so yes!) At the bottom of that article is a link to Dannah Gresh’s website where she provides a link where you can send a letter of complaint to the deplorable people making and promoting this inappropriate clothing.

Since placing the post on our site Friday afternoon that post has had nearly 10,000 reads and none other than Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill Church re-tweeted our post (thanks dude!) …no doubt that Daddy would like to be the hand grasping that pulled on ear!

Truly people…what has the world come to?!

Don’t shop at A & F … EVER!  If you have hand me downs…toss em, burn em, use them to clean up after your dog on your walks in the park. And tell others!

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Modesty for Mom

Oct
28

Yesterday I was having a conversation with Shaunti Feldhahn (Yeah, how cool is that?  She was at FamilyLife and I did a video interview with her for MomLife Today.) and one of the areas of conversation left me feeling pretty hyped up and ready to spout off!

So – put your helmets on ladies, here goes!  I’m gonna just say it straight out – we need to be mindful of how we dress and stop dressing like the unjustly celebrated Desperate Housewives!

There I said it.

Think about it for a minute. Have you been swayed by your wardrobe choices by what you see other women wearing and you are trying to keep up? C’mon, you are smarter than that…straighten up and stop looking for attention, in all the wrong ways, by dressing provocatively.

I must admit – I have noticed it.  Have you? I am tired of seeing cleavage everywhere I go – it’s like an assault to my senses. And this phenomenon is not just happening at the local mall – it also happens at local churches.

Shaunti was sharing with me that modesty for women is one of the top subjects she is asked to deal with and discuss as she travels the country speaking. So, her words got me to thinking, wow – if modesty among “regular” women is what she is asked to discuss with captive audience members – seems like we (you and I) should be discussing the issue and pointing out that immodest dress has become an issue…in even the most unsuspected circles.

Let’s all agree to check, and double check, not only our daughter’s wardrobe, but our own when we “suit up” for the day.  Maybe we have just been lulled into complacency and don’t even realize that we are dressing inappropriately.

I also think it’s time for women to lovingly confront other women they have relationships with who are making this error in judgment and ask them if they have considered how their choice of clothing may be affecting the men around them. Yeah, that’s going to be hard – but it needs to be done.

Your thoughts?

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