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In all of your relationships the effort you put into them, and your attitude, have a direct affect on you and those around you. My heart is to encourage through sharing my joys and challenges – the good, the bad and the ugly. Words served up with a bit of sweet, a dash of spicy and a healthy serving of random reality.

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Whack Priorities

Nov
2

I am struck by the fact that as humans we have this profound tendency to have our priorities out of whack.

News reports show us there are 1,000’s of people struggling right now due to Hurricane Sandy. It appears many, many are lacking basic necessities and are in need of water, food, clothing, warmth and protection from the elements. Many are now homeless and have nothing but the clothes on their backs.

Many residents of devastated areas are feeling forgotten and very alone.

I cannot imagine how weary people must be and how beyond weary first responders must be as they scrape, struggle, provide and serve.

Yet the New York City Marathon will be run Sunday and I am bewildered by that decision. I “somewhat get” that the New York City Marathon brings money to the area and for that reason the show must go on. But isn’t there still much to be done NOW for the hurting?

The marathon is described as a big party, a celebration of sorts and an opportunity for those who have trained hard to achieve a long sought after goal. Is a goal for self really what those gathered in a place of such devastation should be focused on at this time?

The man hours and effort that goes into overseeing the New York Marathon is no doubt mind boggling. Wouldn’t it make more sense to use all those gifts, talents and man hours to solve the newly presented problems facing residents of the most effected boroughs of New York, and beyond.

Provide opportunities for those coming to the race to serve those in New York, not be a distraction from citizens in very real need.

I realize I don’t know all the facts, but I know people are hurting and feel forgotten and alone and that those lives and families should be the priority.

Maybe my view is too simplistic…but in times of crisis I think simplicity is needed.

I did hurricane relief after Hurricane Andrew and after Hurricane Katrina. My experience was that those affected by the storms wanted to matter to others. After Katrina when I knocked on doors to deliver meals the hands received the offering with gratitude, but the eyes and hearts just wanted me to hear their story and assure them that they mattered and they were not forgotten or alone.

I am saddened that man hours that could be used to assist and knock on doors, will instead will be spent on an event. I am concerned that those devastated by the storm  will be wounded more by this lack of action on their behalf than the ravages of Sandy.

Sadly, I wonder if running the race may be symbolic of man’s tendency to ignore the hurting all around us as we run our daily rat race – because we have our agenda already planned out.

It just seems too soon as we have not yet worked hard enough to bind or heal the wounds of the hurting.

I think I shall go read the story of the good Samaritan and ponder these thoughts a bit longer.

What do you think?

 

Sacrifice & Homecoming Ignored!

Oct
22

I am sitting in an airport…crying.

While the world around me continues to turn and people scurry.

The escalators before me carry travelers, many, many travelers.  Face after face coming down the escalator appears weary and laden down with heavy loads – and not just in their arms.

Just moments ago I watched a woman of 40 something bounce up and down and squeal in excitement, there on the down escalator was a younger version of her bouncing up and down.  They nearly bumped over the serious faced businessman as they ran to embrace…more jumping and squealing.  I imagined what great adventure the daughter might be returning from…or coming to.  Planning a wedding, coming home from a mission trip? No matter, I was permitted to share in their joy, if only for a moment and it brought a smile to my face.

What I witnessed next caused me to cry…a single tear sliding down my right cheek.

There seemed to be a heavenly spot light on the scene before me… a large black man in uniform is handed his son of two – who looks like a mini version of the handsome man in his fatigues.  The woman standing next to him with her smooth black skin in stark contrast to the bright pink she is wearing has tears streaming down her beautiful and radiant face.  In a singular moment of divine purpose she lovingly handed her husband their son and she gently laid her head on his chest, he clutched his child in one arm and wrapped his other strong arm around his wife.  I was struck by the reality that those life protecting arms that have valiantly fought for freedoms abroad now gently encircle precious loved ones here at home.

Time seemed to stand still…her lips were moving, as she whispered words of love. They appear to be words for her Father in Heaven – grateful words of praise and thanksgiving.

Though it was hard – I tore my eyes away from this intimate scene taking place in the middle of a loud, bustling airport.  I was struck by the fact that no one around seemed aware of the monumental scene that had just played out before me.

I too joined in the uttering of prayers for this gratefully whole reunited family.

Will you too take a moment to pray for those who serve us, and their families?

Summertime & The Livin’s Sleazy

May
29

Really?

According to many sources there are LOTS of people reading Shades of Grey.

Lots.  Of.  People.

Like, even people that are sitting in church on Sunday.

Um hum.

That’s really curious to me. Shades of Grey is erotic fiction. As far as I can tell, by the description of erotic fiction and the words of many who are referring to the book as “mommy porn” – that means everybody pretty much knows Shades of Grey is a sleazy novel.

Those who are followers of Christ reading said sleazy novel, know what they are reading and yet say – “What’s the big deal? There’s no harm. Don’t judge me. That’s my business.”  I am not judging them, but I do think they need to grow up and have the guts to admit exactly what they are reading and not try to pretend what they are reading is more than what it admittedly is. Just read the blog post written by my friend Dannah Gresh and then spend some time reading the comments (over 250 at last count) from those who are Christ followers and you will see that there are some seriously compromised people out there.

Make no mistake, if you are reading Shades of Grey, you are reading a sleazy novel.

At a very basic level, gross – the last thing any of us need to do is peer into someone else’s bedroom and read about what goes on there in explicit and graphic detail.

At a Godly level, God’s word tells us that we are to think about “whatever” is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable (Philippeans 4:8), that we are not to conform to the world (Romans 12:2) and we are to put off our old selves and not be corrupted by its deceitful desires (Ephesians 4:22).

I don’t get those striving to follow Christ defending reading Shades of Grey. However, if that’s what they are going to do they need to stop kidding themselves – they are reading a sleazy book.

Period.

Trying to rationalize it, points out that they lack true wisdom. (Proverbs 4 & 5.)

And yes I am a sinner and I have my own set of issues to deal with daily. But I am also not trying to put lipstick on a pig.

It is what it is and what it is is…sleazy.

Fifty Shades of Grey No Way

May
16

There are days when you read something on someone else’s blog that you find so compelling you just kinda think…why say what’s already been said?

Such is the case today.

I have much admiration and respect for Dannah Gresh and she has dedicated the last several years of her life to speaking into the lives of others on the subject of purity and sexuality. She has done the research and has a pure heart in her motives to speak on these subjects.

Well, on her blog today she’s claiming, “I’m Not Reading Fifty Shades of Grey” and asks others to join her in that statement. If you have heard all about Fifty Shades of Grey and are planning to read it – might I suggest you hear what Dannah has to say and you may just want to reconsider.

I, for sure, will not be reading Fifty Shades of Gray. There are some things you just don’t want in your brain.

To make a better informed decision for yourself on wether or not to read this book, I invite you to go hear Dannah’s thoughts and join with her in making the statement, I’m Not Reading Fifty Shades of Grey!

Blessed To Guest

Apr
20

Hey Friends!

You know how some people just “shine” when you meet them?  Several years ago I met Tim Kimmel and his wonderful wife Darcy – shine and sparkle for sure! Tim’s books are some of my favorite parenting books!  I have also been blessed by the wisdom and grace of Darcy through her on-line articles.

I did a happy dance when I was asked a year or so ago to be a guest blogger for their site for parents.

I am so very blessed to be a regular over at Family Matters Blog, won’t you join me over there today where I share some thoughts on being a bit too demanding when it comes to having your children do their chores!

Cruisin N Smoosin!

Feb
21

OK – so maybe that is not even a word up there!

But hey…I was very blessed last week to spend five days on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise meeting and greeting people and being all around tropical and active! I committed to totally ignore all social media while spending time with my husband and ministering to other couples…and it was awesome!

Hubby and I had the pleasure of emcee’ing the nightly entertainment on the big stage and that was so much fun! I kept asking him to pinch me as I stood chatting with crazy amazing entertainers who love the Lord and minister to others through song, humor and magic!

I also had the amazing joy of spending lots of time with my fellow contributors over on MomLife TodayCrystal Paine and Dannah Gresh!  Too, too much fun!

Since I have been home I got right back into my momlife.  A college visit weekend with my daughter and then today…I had the EXTRA amazing fun of sitting with my son at the DMV as we waited, and waited, and waited, and waited … and then waited some more – but I am happy to announce we now have another driver in the Eyster household. So much for my new found “stardom” on stage, momlife is alive and well back here on dry land – HA!

My son thinks having a license is real glamorous too…but he will be in for a big surprise because what having a license actually means is I now have license to send him out to get milk, run errands and all around be my “go get it” guy!  That’s a whole different form of cruisin!

Multi-Generational Mom Gathering

Jan
23

Last week I was scurrying around trying to wrangle a large group and keep them engaged and entertained…it was hard work, but well worth it when I saw how much fun they were having and how well they were connecting.

Nope, it was not a group of kids…it was a group of moms! Amazingly, even though MomLife Today was founded in 2008 this was the first time we had all gathered together to meet and dream about our individual ministries and the ministry of MomLife Today.

I hope you will join me over at MomLife Today, where I share the profound effect it hand on me to meet these amazing moms.

It is truly amazing that I met so many of these moms on line and that God uses social media for His purposes!

Interviewing A Model

Jan
11

I really enjoy interviewing people for MomLife Today because being able to share what others are doing to glorify God, that in process speaks into the lives of moms, makes me silly happy!

Confession time…knowing that I was interviewing an International model made me feel silly awkward…like my former awkward pre-teen self. No pressure there…sitting on camera opposite a woman who has been on magazine covers. Gee thanks.

I chose, yes chose, not to “go there” with the comparison trap…and approached the interview with a brave, and yes, happy heart! I even got silly happy because Rachel Lee Carter is a “true beauty” and is an amazing mom and has a passion to speak into the lives of teens (and their moms) about the importance of modesty!

If you would like to “meet” Rachel Lee Carter hop on over to MomLife Today and you can see my video interview and listen to her on FamilyLife Today!

 

Protect Your Children

Nov
16

This whole Penn State thing has had my head reeling. I am at a loss for words. The world has within it such evil – how do we protect our children?

My sweet friend Dannah Gresh wrote an extremely helpful post that gives very doable, practical advice on how to discuss personal space safety with your child. It is a hard conversation to have, but a necessary one.

I would encourage you to follow the link over to MomLife Today to read, and then share this valuable “discussion with your child” tool with others. Knowledge is power – help equip our children!

 

 

Awe

Oct
18

Awe…