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Stay The Course?

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When your first born goes off to college there are so very many challenges.
Letting go, trusting God, an empty bedroom, a smaller ketchup bottle, no more long brown hair stuck in the vacuum cleaner brush, one less place setting, a sad cat, less conversation – I could make a lengthy list.
I could cry me a river too.
But I choose not to – I have spent the last 19 years training her for this time in her life and quite frankly, she is ready. She has stepped into her new life and is thriving. She has chosen friendships well, she is chasing after God, she is loving others, she spends time in the school library often…and the chapel. And down in the creek bed – she’s always been drawn to Him in creation.
As parents we hope and pray that what we teach them daily, what we model to them daily will become their own.
It has…and more.
Moms – keep pouring into your children. Before you know it, you too will be sitting on an empty bed, hugging a worn and well loved stuffed animal.
I assure you that every single MOMent you spent giving of yourself to her will be worth it.
Stay the course.

Protect Your Children

This whole Penn State thing has had my head reeling. I am at a loss for words. The world has within it such evil – how do we protect our children?

My sweet friend Dannah Gresh wrote an extremely helpful post that gives very doable, practical advice on how to discuss personal space safety with your child. It is a hard conversation to have, but a necessary one.

I would encourage you to follow the link over to MomLife Today to read, and then share this valuable “discussion with your child” tool with others. Knowledge is power – help equip our children!

 

 

Solitude MOMents

Sunset loveliness on my evening stroll,

magnificent color all around me with the changing leaves,

…kissed by the light breeze…

caught a lazy oak leaf as it twirled to the ground…

stroked the growing fuzzy winter coats on my horses as they munched hay…

God’s gracious simple blessings for my sweet MOMents of solitude received with gratitude!

If you have not slowed down … I encourage you to do so…

Life “out there” holds much, much more than time spent on the screen in front of you.

Awe

Awe…

Woman Inspired

Boys N Cars

I am sure you have had heard it said (or learned personally) that teenagers can be a major source of frustration. While that is true, they can also be a major source of insight – and are frequently wiser than we give them credit for.

Adults strive to figure out teenagers and why they think and act the way they do. Since one of my delights is to speak into the lives of teenagers, I observe and do mom research by interacting, listening and capturing teen thoughts, actions and attitudes. Which is part of why I truly enjoy substitute teaching. It is amazing what you can hear a teen say when they assume you are not listening. I mean really…do they think we don’t have ears?

My own teens are a great source of wisdom as well. I recently received a lesson on Boys n Cars from my daughter that is one parents of teen boys might like to hear. We saw a newly licensed “coming of age” sixteen year old guy get out of his car – his very nice, fully appointed sports car. My husband commented that no teenage boy had any business having an automobile of that caliber because it’s purpose on a flat surface is to rapidly achieve extremely high speeds in the span of mere seconds.

My daughter eagerly chimed, “I know, it’s pathetic, does he not realize how ridiculous he looks in that car. He’s a kid. It’s like he’s a little boy riding atop a Thoroughbred race horse waving his arms saying look at me, look at me, look at me! When everyone all around him knows, that boy has no business on a Thoroughbred – all he’s gonna do is get himself hurt up there!”

Interesting analogy, great word picture and a window into the mind of a teenage girl. Rather than be impressed by the steed the teen was dismounting she realized that the sports car he is in is more than he can handle and by riding around in it he merely points out his immaturity and inability to embrace his limitations. Pretty insightful observation from a teen girl.

And I gotta ask, “What are his parents thinking?” Fast sports cars and sixteen year old boys do not mix.

Simple Delights

Horses that come running when they see me walk out to the barn.

A luna moth that comes to visit and hangs out on my porch.

Gratitude for all that God has given…unmerited grace.

Roses that seem to continuously bloom.

Whispers of truth that drown out the lies.

A 15 year old son that opens the door for me.

Receiving a text from my 18 year old daughter in college that says, “You’re cute.”

Crisp fall air and warm flannel pants.

A husband that calls me beautiful after 25 years of marriage.

Fresh baked cinnamon rolls.

Maple trees slowly becoming infused with beautiful red colors.

A family of deer watching my morning run.

A hot cup of Chai Tea.

Words that appear on a page that are Holy Spirit inspired.

Dark chocolate covered raisins.

Beginning to believe in myself and what God has called me to do.

Friends that support and encourage.

Not sweating the small the stuff.

Crickets chirping.

A babbling brook right outside my bedroom window.

Memories revealed through 1,000′s of photographs.

Every breath.

Substitute Teaching Success

 

I have served as a substitute teacher for many years. Mainly because I like getting to know my children’s peers and understanding their world. My enjoyment of substitute teaching ramped up once my kids became tweens/teens because pouring into the lives of kids that age can have long term ramifications.

That happened today.

A teen boy was being disobedient, not doing as instructed and he was choosing to be a royal pest to the students around him. After a couple of warnings I told him to head to the office and let the Principal know why I had sent him there.

He walked out the door and I saw him leaning against the wall outside my door. After getting the other students settled back into what they were doing I stepped into the hallway.

The look on his face was sheer dread. Initially he fain ignorance, then he claimed he did nothing wrong, then he argued that others were acting worse than him, finally he begged for mercy. He genuinely looked like he was in full fledged fight or flight mode. I truly felt sorry for him and wondered if this would lead to a major punishment or the inability to participate in some athletic endeavor. I didn’t know why he was in such a state of panic…but it was obvious he was.

I wanted to cave. Give him a sweet warning and send him back into the classroom.

The Holy Spirit had a different plan.

I looked him right in the eye and told him he needed to man up and take responsibility for his actions. I explained that God was obviously wanting him to learn something from this experience. I told him he obviously knew better and later in his life the stakes were going to be higher. I asked him to think about just what God wanted from him and to head to the principals office, do the right thing and man up.

He was not happy as he walked away. The room I was in is directly across from the office and initially he was giving a litany of excuses to the the ladies in the office and was well on his way to dodging responsibility as he waited for the Principal.

He came back to the classroom just after the end of class bell rang, got his books and backpack walked over to my desk and apologized. He seemed reluctant, or embarrassed, I wasn’t sure which.

At the end of the day on my way out of the school building I stopped by the Principal’s office to see how things had gone. The Principal shared with me that the young man readily admitted his actions, said he was wrong and said I should have called him on it and that he was sorry.

I was shocked…I figured he had done with the Principal the same he had done with me.

Knowing that he took responsibility for his actions made my entire day.

The only way young men will ever learn to “step up” and do the right thing is if they are challenged to do so.

Random Stuff & Happy Anniversary To Me

 

I feel loved by God fully, completely and am grateful for His unmerited goodness!

Thank you for your prayers for my horse Dot! She is doing amazingly well! Her hoof abscess finally busted and we continue to soak and clean her hoof and give her lots of TLC!

My husband and I made a trip to Pine Cove Christian camp over the weekend and I am even MORE excited about the MomLife Boot Camp event we are having there March 23-25, 2012!

My son is amazing because he cared for Dot while we were away and it was a bit of a nasty job…but he did it gladly.

My daughter is thriving in college and has made amazing Godly friends, their favorite fun activities are praise and worship sessions around campus and at a nearby creek bed…and Saturday night swing dancing at a local church! (And yes, her studies are going well – she is on track!)

I am putting together a new book proposal on a subject that is truly God inspired…I am practically bursting with enthusiasm over what God is directing me to share!

My amazing husband has spent hours discussing my calling with me, helping me to embrace and understand what God is asking me to do and challenging me to have the courage to go for it.

I love my husband and I love being his wife!

Today is our 25th wedding anniversary…I am feeling very sparkly and silver today! Hubby spoiled me last Friday with a surprise day of lunch with a friend and a surprise drop off at a spa…amazingness!

I got the BEST anniversary gift EVER…he gathered up all 25 years of photos, shipped them off and had them converted to DVD’s…I have 1,000′s of pics of our lives at my fingertips in three different locations to keep them safe forever! I know…he’s amazing!

Today I made him lots of his favorites – it is true that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach!

 

Ran-Ram (Random Ramblings)

It’s been awhile since I just “let it fly” with some “R n R” random bits of mom thoughts, that are at times filled with wisdom…or not.

I can always tell when my children are sick because their eyes are not quite right.

My daughter looks absolutely adorable when chatting on FB facetime.

Trying to get people to follow your blog is kinda silly, they either will or they won’t – just share your heart, the rest is up to God!

When editing something written from the heart you can go bonkers hoping you get it on paper in a way that it will touch other hearts.

My morning run, walk or hike truly does make me a better person.

Watching moms with their younger children makes my mouth turn up on both ends…and my eyes crinkle.

You don’t spell crinkle with a “k” evidently.

The bad cat that’s been hanging out at our house is now my enemy, he has scared our cat away.  :0(

There are hints of fall teetering all around…that makes me warm on the inside.

When sweet little boys become big strong young men my heart swells and feels safer knowing I have two men who will care for me in my old age.

A freshly cleaned bathroom lifts my spirits.

It is strange that I actually long for on-line friendships, for my gift of encouragement sees so much potential to do what comes naturally.

Joy is a gift from God, one that I am very grateful for – right now more than ever.

Reading about “the world” sometimes results in an attempt to steal my joy – I am not gonna let that happen.

I choose God!